[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ theme_builder_area=”post_content” _builder_version=”4.22.2″ _module_preset=”default”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.22.2″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content”][et_pb_column _builder_version=”post_content” 4.22.2″ _module_preset=”default” type=”4_4″ theme_builder_area=”post_content”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.22.2″ _module_preset=”default” theme_builder_area=”post_content” hover_enabled=”0″ sticky_enabled=”0″] Although it was previously believed that our ability to form a romantic relationship and feel love again declines with age, we now know that older people are often happier and more satisfied with life and, consequently, with their marriage or other cherished partnership.
The reasons for this are different and vary from person to person. However, there are some general opinions that most people agree with.
When the carefreeness of youth leaves us, we change our perspective and focus on positive experiences in love and peace and tranquility.
We no longer depend on others to accept our decision or our way of life to be universally accepted, but we choose to live by our own rules that our future partner will accept. Or we won't start a relationship at all.
It is believed that youth is full of intense emotions and excitement, but these emotions bring not only positive experiences, but also negative ones. In adulthood, we are used to changes and do not perceive them as something significant, but we quickly adapt to the situation.
Falling in love and intimacy are important elements of love relationships, but now some other things are more important to us, like closeness, support and connection.
The happiness associated with intense love is excitement; the happiness associated with deep, mature love can be described as peace and tranquility. The transition from youth to old age implies a change in close social relations, that is, a transition from quantity to quality. It is suggested that a major developmental task for younger couples is to manage conflict, while for older couples to maintain mutual support.
Maturity and compromises
In mature years, we give up romantic values, such as passionate love, in exchange for a non-romantic value – quality of life. Such a compromise arises from the awareness that we are limited beings; we cannot always meet our standards or achieve our ideals. Survival sometimes depends on flexibility, settling for something less – or simply different – than we wanted.
Compromises reflect acceptance of our limitations and current situation. However, this situation should not be seen as something overwhelming at all. It is true that as we age we desire different love, and those desires have changed even at a much younger age. It is natural and completely normal to not want everything we wanted in the 30s or 40s, but something completely new and different, with very little of what was important to us before.
Redefining love
Mature love is often not what passionate romantic love is. This is why many people say they never want to mature, because accepting what is possible and ignoring what is desirable can be a sign of declining enthusiasm and spontaneity. However, this is not a bad sign at all.
People who act immature are extremely attractive: they are very lively, joyful and youthful, living in the moment like there is no tomorrow. However, like children, they are often inconsistent and unstable, which makes you wonder if they will love you tomorrow when they meet another exciting person, which allows them to fully embrace the romantic life from a different perspective. Do you want that kind of love at this age? The answer is probably negative.
It seems that in old age, when cognitive and physical abilities decline, the ability to be content with one's lot increases, which reduces marital conflict and encourages us to make healthy compromises. Older people are more likely to adopt a constructive attitude to make the most of what they already (or still) have. Their concern is not to have more, but to lose less.
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The reasons for this are different and vary from person to person. However, there are some general opinions that most people agree with.
When the carefreeness of youth leaves us, we change our perspective and focus on positive experiences in love and peace and tranquility.
We no longer depend on others to accept our decision or our way of life to be universally accepted, but we choose to live by our own rules that our future partner will accept. Or we won't start a relationship at all.
It is believed that youth is full of intense emotions and excitement, but these emotions bring not only positive experiences, but also negative ones. In adulthood, we are used to changes and do not perceive them as something significant, but we quickly adapt to the situation.
Falling in love and intimacy are important elements of love relationships, but now some other things are more important to us, like closeness, support and connection.
The happiness associated with intense love is excitement; the happiness associated with deep, mature love can be described as peace and tranquility. The transition from youth to old age implies a change in close social relations, that is, a transition from quantity to quality. It is suggested that a major developmental task for younger couples is to manage conflict, while for older couples to maintain mutual support.
Maturity and compromises
In mature years, we give up romantic values, such as passionate love, in exchange for a non-romantic value – quality of life. Such a compromise arises from the awareness that we are limited beings; we cannot always meet our standards or achieve our ideals. Survival sometimes depends on flexibility, settling for something less – or simply different – than we wanted.
Compromises reflect acceptance of our limitations and current situation. However, this situation should not be seen as something overwhelming at all. It is true that as we age we desire different love, and those desires have changed even at a much younger age. It is natural and completely normal to not want everything we wanted in the 30s or 40s, but something completely new and different, with very little of what was important to us before.
Redefining love
Mature love is often not what passionate romantic love is. This is why many people say they never want to mature, because accepting what is possible and ignoring what is desirable can be a sign of declining enthusiasm and spontaneity. However, this is not a bad sign at all.
People who act immature are extremely attractive: they are very lively, joyful and youthful, living in the moment like there is no tomorrow. However, like children, they are often inconsistent and unstable, which makes you wonder if they will love you tomorrow when they meet another exciting person, which allows them to fully embrace the romantic life from a different perspective. Do you want that kind of love at this age? The answer is probably negative.
It seems that in old age, when cognitive and physical abilities decline, the ability to be content with one's lot increases, which reduces marital conflict and encourages us to make healthy compromises. Older people are more likely to adopt a constructive attitude to make the most of what they already (or still) have. Their concern is not to have more, but to lose less.
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